COVID-19 SPECIAL: Why Many Women Are Not Happy In Their Marriages – Dr. Prophet Blessing Chiza

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Today I want to talk to men as “Heads and Engines of their Houses”. We need to start the engines so that we get the family truck moving.


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Before this global lockdown, some men had never spent some time together with their wives. It's a God ordained time for husbands to be on lockdown together with their wives and children at home. If you don’t take care to correct certain mistakes in your marriage you might end this lockdown season with a divorce instead of a strong marriage. You need to do your homework very well.

Why is your woman not happy with you? Why is she easily angry, irritable, depressed, frustrated and throws very bitter towards you? Why did she lose respect for you in marriage? Why is she so emotional, hates sex, no zeal and lost her charm? Why?

The following are some of the key reasons why she doesn’t fancy being with you:

1. YOU DON'T APPRECIATE HER:
Some men are perfect complainers and critics. They don't see anything good in their wives. They believe praising a woman will make her head swell and misbehave, even when she is slaving to death. They would rather attack, abuse, complain, criticize than appreciate her. If you are that type of a man, you can never have a happy woman under your roof. A simple “Thank you”, “You are doing a great job”, “It’s great having you in my life” will do great magic and turn your marriage fortunes. Learn to appreciate your wife when she goes out of her way to please you. She will be happy and that will illuminate your marriage.

2. YOU DON'T LISTEN TO HER:

We are communication beings. Women love to talk, to be listened to and well understood. When you are too busy to communicate with her, look into her eyeball and let her know she is the most important person to you after God, otherwise you will have a frustrated and depressed wife. We understand you can be so busy and need time to unwind and think, but don't make a habit of ignoring your wife. She needs to talk to you daily.

3. YOU CHEAT ON HER:
Double dating is not allowed in courtship. If you cheat on her, she will end it. Chasing side chicks, having emotional/ sexual chats with other women may make your wife lose her mind. No wife will ever be happy with an adulterer. Stop it now and work on your marriage or you may end up divorced.

4. YOU DON'T ADMIRE HER:
Some men will look at their very beautiful wives, acknowledge their beauty and attractiveness, but to open their mouths and say it is a big problem. Some men need to be taught how to admire their women. Learn to open your mouth and tell your wife she's beautiful daily. If you can’t do that then you need deliverance and prayers. No man out there should do that for you, it's your job. Admire her when she makes effort to look good for you. Admire her hair, body and natural endowments. Admire her uniqueness. Open your mouth and tell her. Women need to hear this as often as possible.

5. YOU RUSH IN AND OUT OF SEX:
Little or no foreplay will leave her dry and uninterested. Rushing in and rushing out of sex is a killer of sexual intimacy in marriage. Learn to be romantic. Be patient with her, take things slowly till she is ready for intimacy. Do not roll over and sleep when it is over. Pull her in your arms. Let her sleep in your arms. There is nothing as blissful as sleeping in your husband’s arms. Let your wife sleep in your own arms.

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6. YOU DON'T ASSIST WITH CHORES:
You sit in front of a television with a remote in hand and a tooth pick in between your teeth while your wife is slaving in the kitchen, changing diapers, helping your kids with assignments, answering phone calls from clients, sweeping the apartment, preparing for the next day’s work. That's very bad. Your wife works as much as you do if not more. Learn to assist your woman at home. Don't turn her to your maid, don't watch her die of stress, and don’t make her look older than you.

7. YOU COMPARE HER WITH OTHER WOMEN:
That's a shame. If you love her the way those women's husbands love them, she will be more virtuous than them all. Stop comparing your wife with women you don't know their weaknesses. If their husbands tell you their other side they have been enduring you will thank God for yours. The grass always look greener on the other side. Stop being covetous. Work on your marriage and have a better wife.

8. YOU CORRECT AND EMBARRASS HER IN PUBLIC:
Nothing embarrasses a woman more like her husband correcting and shouting at her in public. It is demeaning and very childish. Every form of correction should take place in the house before stepping out, and if at all you must correct as a matter of urgency, call her aside and speak to her softly, maturely and discreetly. You will earn her honour for protecting her image. She will respect you more and be happy with you. Also learn to praise your wife before just rushing to correct her.

9. YOU LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER AND RELATIVES AGAINST HER:
This is wrong. You are not joined to your mother or relatives but your wife. You are not one with your mother or siblings but your wife. Some men don't understand the language of leaving and cleaving. You leave every form of emotional intimacy with your parents, siblings and bond with your wife. You should talk first to your wife not your parent or sister when making decisions. Both of you should speak with one voice to your mother and sisters. Some men even leave their homes, running with their issues to their parents and siblings. No woman will ever be happy and content with you in that kind of an arrangement.

10. YOU DON'T TAKE FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES:
How can a woman ever be happy with a husband who spends all his money on himself and his extended family members, and little or nothing on his wife and children? These men appear nice, very generous, philanthropic outside but inside the woman is suffering, hungry and indebted. The rent is in arrears, children are sent home for school fees, no new clothes for the kids, creditors are harassing the family, whilst he is busy blessing girls outside and relatives. Tears of the wife and children are cursing him. Your wife's curse will work faster than all the supposed blessings you expect from your eye service. Charity begins at home. Your wife and children are more important than others. Take care of them first before taking care of outsiders. When your family is happy, well fed and clothed, they will be happy and bless you. People will bless you for helping you. God will also bless you abundantly.

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Learn to put first things first. When your wife is happy with you, your life will run smoothly, doors of favour will open to you and you will increase in health, wealth and prosperity.

May the good Lord help you go be the best husband in the world to your wife. You will not fail in Jesus' name!!


Original article by Dr. Prophet Blessing Samuel Chiza


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