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Self-Control: The Way Forward (Part 2 of 2)

Definition Self-Control or Temperance is “a discipline of self, self-restraint, the will-power, strength of mind and your will to live up t...

Definition Self-Control or Temperance is “a discipline of self, self-restraint, the will-power, strength of mind and your will to live up to your set principles”. It is the self-will to restrict indulgence in certain things that may seem irresistible to you. It is a gift of God by His grace but it is you who has the capacity to use it or not as you will. Galatians 5:22-23; “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law”.

Self-Control: The Way Forward (Part 2 of 2)

As we continue with Part 2 of our article on Self-Control; read Part 1 here:

You Are Not The Only One Who Is:
1. Seeing that money can be gotten easily through ungodly means.
2. Seeing that women are getting more beautiful; or that the man next door seems more loving, richer and has a bigger six pack than yours.
3. Seeing that you can destroy your enemy’s life by a single rumour.
4. Feeling the urge to talk about the juicy issues of the man of the man/woman of God, on issues I now know but others do not.
5. Feeling it is a nasty temptation to look when I am availed the opportunity to see pornographic literature.
6. Tempted to go on living in illicit sex, homosexuality, lesbianism, drug abuse and to resist the urge to smoke when you feel withdrawal symptoms.
7. Feeling like exploding and telling off someone who has wronged you.

When you decide that the urge is too much and you cannot resist then you sin, you have missed the mark, you have failed. The difference between one who passes and one who fails, one that says “what did you expect me to do in those circumstances?” is self-control. Self-control is deciding to follow your set principles, to respect your future than to choose instant gratification, it is saying to self “I will not though I can”. It is saying, “I have the ability to do it and to cover up without anyone knowing but I will say no to myself”.  It is resisting yourself, fighting against yourself, deciding to kill self, to crucify self that Christ may live within you. Galatians 2:20; “I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ lives in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me”.

Not every woman is your wife, not every man is your hubby, it’s not every party you have to attend, not every church that comes to town is your church, not every man you meet should you sleep with, not every lady that asks you to sleep with should you give your body. In short, not every temptation that crosses your path should you yield to. Control yourself, you are not an animal; you are a human being and you have a conscience. God expects you to control yourself. Hapana satani apa (there is no devil here), hapana mweya yemadzinza apa (there is no family curses), hauna munyama, you are not cursed asi hauzvibate chete (but you just don’t know how to control yourself). Zvibate, control yourself! AIDS is wreaking havoc because of unbridled sexual lusts, road accidents are all over because of drivers who cannot control themselves to drink at home. People are being mugged by people who cannot control their lust for even a few dollars. Corruption has brought the world to its knees because someone could not control their love for money. Families are breaking down because of men and women who lack self-control.

Self-Control: The Way Forward (Part 2 of 2)

How Do I Control Myself?
It is good for you to always remember that self-control is based on your own discretion. Here are some things you may do to control the self:

1. Yield to the presence and ministry of the Holy Ghost since genuine self-control is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. Which means you must first receive the Holy Spirit. Be willing to obey when the Spirit tugs your conscience, because He will. Psalms 32:8-9; “I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye. Be ye not as the horse, or as the mule, which have no understanding: whose mouth must be held in with bit and bridle, lest they come near unto thee. Stay in the word which transforms you and keeps you from sin”

Psalms 119:9, 11; “Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed thereto according to thy word… Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee”.

2. Make sure you set certain boundaries for yourself; like I will never do shady deals or I will never have extra-marital relationships. Make sure these are made clear to yourself. According to Archbishop Dr. Asa Gurupira, not everything that comes in your mind must be said or done.

3. Decide that you will live to see your boundaries never crossed.

4. Do away with all friends that do not want to follow your new faith. 1 Corinthians 15:33; “Do not be deceived: Evil company corrupts good habits”.

5. Keep yourself away from tempting situations and hold on to the fellowship of the saints. Psalms 1:1; “Blessed is the man that walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful”.

6. Ask others to help you; e.g. from your spouse, family or friend. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12; “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falls; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone. And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken”.

7. When you fail do not give up; but seek the help of a leader or pastor and be willing to repent. Never, never, never hide your sin. 1 John 1:9; “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”

James 5:16; “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much”.

Our way forward is for us to know that no one from another country or continent will come control us. It is only you that can control you! Your destiny; your eventual success or demise is based on your ability or failure to control yourself.

Notes from teaching by: Apostle Pride Sibiya 
18 March 2013

Self-Control: The Way Forward (Part 2 of 2)