Reasons Your Spouse/Fiancé Does Not Enjoy Talking To You For people in marriage or courtship, there are times when their relationship mi...
Reasons
Your Spouse/Fiancé Does Not Enjoy Talking To You
For people in marriage or courtship, there are
times when their relationship might go through some challenges. During those
moments there are few interactions, as there will be more of accusations and
counter-accusations. It is not a healthy situation, but inevitable. But, such
situations must not prolong much. If they do, it means one or both partners
could be having challenges somehow. Below we take a look at some of the reasons
why your spouse/partner does not enjoy talking to you:
1. You
Over React:
If you keep blowing things out of proportion, your
partner will be wondering how they can approach you for a healthy discussion.
2. You
Don’t Initiate Conversations:
Conversations need to be initiated from both ends.
You can’t have one person initiating discussions all the time. He or she will
one day tire up and also keep quiet.
3. You
Keep Talking About Your Ex:
It is boring for a man to talk with a woman that
one loves and she keeps bringing her ex in the conversations, especially
praising him as if she is still stuck in the past. This is really ridiculous to
your partner.
4. You
Gossip A Lot:
Your spouse will tell you less information once he
or she realises that you will end up sharing sensitive stuff with other friends
and relatives.
5. You
Judge Your Partner:
One of the greatest tragedies on relationships is
the strain that comes through vilifying your partner. Once your partner
realises that you view them in less esteem, they tend to share less information
with you.
6. You
Are A One Issue Person:
If you are fixated on one issue which you keep
complaining about, your partner will get bored. Learn to be diverse in your
conversations and complain less in your conversations.
7. You
Are Over Emotional:
It is healthy to be emotional but when you become
over emotional and over sensitive, your partner will struggle to tell you
things fearing you cannot handle them.
8. You
Are Argumentative:
If you turn a simple conversation into a nasty
confrontation, your partner will resort to talk less in order to keep at peace
with you.
9. You
Don’t Listen:
If you are the kind of a person who always wants
to be heard and you rarely take time to hear your partner out; then your
partner will not enjoy talking to you. If it is all about you and you alone, then
you will end up receiving less information from your partner. And in cases
where you are conversing to each other, your partner ends up tolerating you
instead of enjoying the discussion with you.
10. You
Have Walls:
If you keep pushing your partner away due to your
fears, trust issues, or stereotyping; then they will end up not understanding
you despite how well he or she treats you. They will simply get tired of you.
11. You
Are Possessive:
If you are all up in your partner’s space, choking
their comfort, driven with paranoia, micromanaging him or her because you fear of
losing them to potential takers out there; it will simply hurt them that you
don’t trust them. You are robbing them of their peace, and they have no option
that to keep quiet in your presence.
12. You
Over Think:
If you are the kind of person who over analyses
issues to the point that no decision actually gets made; or when a decision is
made you live in constant fear that it might go wrong. This might make your
partner consider what they can tell you and what they shouldn’t.
Adopted and edited by Tapiwa Zuze