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Protecting The Marriage Institution (Part 2 of 3)

Marriage forms the core component of humanity and society at large. It was initiated by God himself for Adam when he saw that “It is not go...

Marriage forms the core component of humanity and society at large. It was initiated by God himself for Adam when he saw that “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him” – Genesis 2:18. After the making of Eve, and her subsequent ‘delivery’ to Adam; that’s how the marriage institution was formulated. In the process God gave an instruction that “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” – Genesis 2:24. 

Protecting The Marriage Institution (Part 2 of 3)

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However, even though the marriage institution was founded by God Himself; it has now been vandalized and bastardised by people to the extent that it is no longer viewed as an institution of importance. Some people have even gone on to declare that ‘I will never be married’; based on their previous encounters and experience. Has the marriage institution gone that bad? What can we do to restore ‘normalcy and acceptance’ to this institution of primary importance? Let’s explore the basic ways in which We can improve our marriages for the better.

7. Know your boundaries. Put fences around your heart and protect sacred ground, reserved only for your spouse. Many married people don't understand that a chemical reaction can occur with someone other than their mates - a reaction of two hearts, the chemistry of two souls. This is emotional adultery - an intimacy with the opposite sex outside of marriage. Emotional adultery is unfaithfulness of the heart. When two people begin talking of int-mate struggles, doubts or feelings, they may be sharing their souls in a way that God intended exclusively for the marriage relationship. Emotional adultery is friendship with the opposite sex that has progressed too far. 

8. Whenever you're faced with the temptation of attraction to someone other than your spouse, realize that there is only one response that will work: TO FLEE! Any other approach, such as trying to rationalize your way out of it, is doomed to failure. Decide to run from the situation as from a contagious disease. 

Protecting The Marriage Institution (Part 2 of 3)

9. Quit kidding yourself. Understand the tremendous capacity of every human being to deceive him or herself when not connected to God. Know that, once you start making excuses for wrong behaviour, each excuse will sound more plausible, and you will sink deeper and deeper into sin and ruin. Admit that you can't trust your own self. 

10. Avoid temptation. Innocent chat room visits can endanger a marriage when someone discovers a ‘cyberspace soul mate’. When the honesty that's missing in a marriage gets spilled out on the computer screen, emotional affairs can result. Preventative measures include: Avoid discussing emotional topics or personal problems over the Internet. Avoid chat rooms and Internet sites designed for meeting people and socializing. If necessary, limit your time on-line. If you are sharing emotional closeness with someone of the opposite sex other than your spouse in any arena, STOP! 

11. Recognize that work can be a danger zone. Don't lunch alone or take coffee breaks with the same person (of the opposite sex). When you travel with a co-worker, meet in public rooms only." 

12. Avoid emotional intimacy with attractive alternatives to your spouse. Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours his or her heart out to you. 

Protecting The Marriage Institution (Part 2 of 3)

We continue again in Part 3 of the article as we explore more was that we can use to protect the marriage institution. 

Stay blessed!

Adopted and edited by Tapiwa Zuze